Man Finds Meaning

Man Finds Meaning
We split up two weeks ago. I'm now living 15 minutes away from my wife and daughter, who I see twice a week and every other weekend. She's been really clingy recently, not like her at all, especially when we try to drop her off at her new nursery. wouldn't let me leave. The manager suggested just going and getting past it. But given all the disruption in her life recently that just seems too much. If only the best way forward was obvious. I know people will have their opinion, but when it's your own kid it's very hard.
Divorce 021: The Effect On Our Daughter
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Finally got a moving date. Moving out in three days. Easy to get melancholic and ruminate about all the memories we've made here, but it's better to think about what's ahead. Anyway, I'm feeling pretty good - at least compared to a few month or even weeks ago. Stopped drinking again, which has helped a lot. Feeling healthier and more confident. Been doing some personal and professional development work, building the picture of who I want to be, and also learning new skills to keep my enthusiasm up at work.
Divorce 020: Feeling Ok, Ready To Move On
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I thought my wife and daughter were going in holiday tomorrow, but they've already left. It was an unexpected relief. The moment I had been dreading has already passed. And now it's time to move on. I'll be here in this house for the next few days, and I've made a plan of how I'm going to use that time.
Divorce 019: Now We Don't Live Together Anymore
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Tomorrow my wife and daughter are going on holiday for 10 days. By the time they come back I'll be moved out. Then the house sale will complete. It feels weird. Nostalgic. The end of a chapter, and the start of a new one.
Divorce 018: Last Day Together In Our House
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*This video refers to men discussing significant issues like their mental health, or problems in their life. Not just normal everyday feelings. Despite being told we should talk about our feelings and our problems more, is that actually the best thing to do? Some say it devalues us in the eyes of our peers, and especially women. Even if they seem supportive at the time. Personally, I can say I've fallen into the trap of talking too much about my 'issues'. And in part, that it led to the breakdown of my marriage. But bottling stuff up can cause more psychological distress and even dangerous behaviours. So what's the answer? I believe there's a middle ground. Here's what I think is a healthy, strategic approach to dealing with difficult or overwhelming emotions: 1. Write it down. It helps you articulate what you're thinking and feeling. 2. Speak to a professional over the phone, online or in person. Someone you don't know. Use them as a sounding board to help articulate and shape how you feel. 3. Then talk to a small number of select people. Perhaps your best mate. But don't just broadcast your feelings to anyone and everyone. And although you should talk to your wife or girlfriend about stuff that really matters to you, do this first. Because this too will pass. ------- WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT: I'm separating from my wife. We have a two-year-old daughter. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. But something inside me is activated by this. So I'm documenting my journey. Because it helps me articulate my thoughts and feelings, and sharing my experiences with you gives a sense of meaning to it all. HERE'S MY BLOG www.ManFindsMeaning.com
Should Men Talk About Their Emotions?
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Despite the fact I'm separating from my wife and we have a two year old daughter, I'm actually starting to feel much more positive. I think the main reasons why are: 1. We had a conversation with our daughter about moving house, that went really well. That's been a huge relief emotionally. Here's the full conversation, in case it's helpful for you. https://youtu.be/scRXpUA5SJs 2. I'm in the process of buying a flat, and starting to imagine myself in my new life, and that's exciting. 3. I've tried not to bottle things up too much, and allowed myself to grieve. It's been painful at times, but I really think it's so important for healing. I also made this video about how to survive divorce as a man. It's quite hard hitting but that's because it's real. https://youtu.be/KQYvFyHMC_M
Divorce 017: Things Are Starting To Look Up
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This is the actual video of us telling our little girl that we are separating. I had dreaded this conversation for months. But it went so much better than expected. We used lego models to explain it to her and help her picture having two houses. Obviously, she still has to process everything, and this is just the beginning. But it was such a relief, that I wanted to share this video, in case it helps someone else approach this subject. ------- WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT: I'm separating from my wife. We have a two-year-old daughter. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. But something inside me is activated by this. So I'm documenting my journey. Because it helps me articulate my thoughts and feelings. And it feels meaningful to share it with you. HERE'S MY BLOG www.ManFindsMeaning.com
Telling Our Two Year Old We're Getting Divorced
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I'm going through a separation and we have to move out of our family home in a couple of weeks. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. But I've made myself call someone. Good friends. And it helps. They can't make everything ok. But it's good to know someone cares. If you're going through a hard time right now, give someone a call. Real friends appreciate you reaching out.
Divorce 016: Real Friends Appreciate You Reaching Out
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I'm Mike, I'm 43 living in the UK. I make content about stuff that matters, like finding meaning in life, how to finally be happy and successful, and light-hearted topics like anger, addiction and apathy. I'm currently going through a divorce and I'm documenting the process. You can find my blog here: www.ManFindsMeaning.com
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